Fertility New Zealand walks alongside all people facing fertility challenges.
Four tips for special occasions
(e.g. Christmas, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and birthdays)
These can be difficult times for people experiencing infertility. Holidays may be painful reminders of their longed-for child and of the fertility and success of others. Birthdays can be another difficult day as not only do they remind you of your own birth but also being unable to celebrate a child’s birthday. Your understanding and support will be appreciated by your family member or friend.
Your friend or family member may prefer to spend Christmas or other special days alone. Don’t feel rejected. Let them know that you would like to see them, but will understand if they do not feel able to attend. They love you and don’t want to spoil your celebrations with their sadness.
A card letting them know you are thinking of them may be appropriate.
Acknowledge privately that this is a difficult time. Don’t pretend that nothing is wrong.